Though I Was Not Your Mentor!

Author's Note

Dear Ansh

This is my first book :P

Hope you like it

Feedback are welcome :D

Happy Bday!

                                                   Vishal Goel

                                                    22/1/2012

This book has some things, habits, actions which are required for everyone. I have written those which I felt important. Enjoy!!

Set Goals 

You know Ansh this is the most important of all & that's why first. Don't Worry how hard the goal is. More important is how you achieve it. :)

Make U'r today Special 

Nothing better to say than line which Mallika likes.. "Everybody wears sunscreen" - #Do one thing everyday that scares you#

Never Complicate Matters 

Often Solution to Complicate problems are very simple. THINK BASIC. Don't take too many charges. Throw away Unnecessary. You are gifted with one life, LIVE IT BIG

Record Your Thoughts 

Ansh, make this your habit...write down things. You or me or anyone comes across 100 ideas a day but retain none as we never write it down. Use your phone if paper not there.

Use the power of patience

Most people quit too soon. Use this to your advantage. Listen to what others have to say, reason it out and then act. YOUR TIME WILL COME

Accept Differences/Let them Be..:) 

I have seen many people who think themselves above others. Am happy, rather learn from you how to accept differences.. STAY THIS WAY! *This is one major quality many lack..

Give yourself gift of Self Reliance! 

You need Will, Self Confidence & Action Plan! You have all 3.. Don't lose them

Look in the Mirror 

Best Self Realization medicine this is. Look in the mirror in your eyes..you see yourself then cool. PS - I always see someone else :|

Risk Failure, Cause Change 

If you will not take risk then who will..If you will not cause change then who will?

Be Prudent 

Just because you deserve victory doesn't mean you will win every fight. Others might have tactical advantages. Have self confidence to know when not to fight.

Don't be a perfectionist 

Start off with the work..if you wait for perfection it will never. First time things will be K..second time good and then Perfect ..

be persistent 

You know this very well Ansh. Specially this place will teach you..! You can't get your work done unless you are persistent.

Walk The Talk 

Don't say anything which you can not perform. Think before doing things you have not promised for .. :)

be proud 

Be proud for your team..for your work..for your appearance..for your hometown, Never let negative talks hamper this feeling..

Love many things 

Music, art, adventure, books, friends, garden, home, office, cellphone, clothes, shopping, exercise, sunsets, walks, gym... Feel good for everything!

be decisive 

Don't let decisions lingering around. Be quick in making accurate decisions. Higher people like diro likes straight yes/no kind of people.

Develop your special Talent/ Do what others can not 

Most people can’t help a crying friend..you can. Most people can’t get up at 6 am and jog..you can. Keep trying to find your special talent.

Think win win 

Its nothing but +ive attitude. Try to find solution which is good both for you & for others. PS: I am waiting for this footsteps!

Negotiate with Power 

Almost everything is negotiable.. have right reasons to negotiate.. Don’t argue or threaten. Respect other party’s position.

Remain Adaptable 

That is how world evolved.. You want to be in race, remain adaptable. Now you are in comfort of your friends, later you may not..

Applaud the beginner..spread Enthusiasm 

Never straight forward say no to beginner. Tell him the draw backs & to work again. Team enthu is in your hands. People work best under that stage :)

Act with BOLDNESS 

No one honors faint, shy and timid. Asking for glass of water or making a deal, be confident..

Read Read Read 

Society respects those who are well read. Despite whatever we have said, grades not imp & all.. STUDY WELL!! Reading broadened your outlook.. J

Work at Work 

:D Something I still need to learn. When working then give your 100%. No sms, chat, call, pep talks..

Develop your sense of Humor 

People love those who laugh… People love those more who can laugh on jokes made on them.. Your “SMILE” is contagious.. J

Show Loyalty 

I know I failed in this one.. But please..always be true to your friends!

Control Conflict 

Always remain calm and detached. Allow others to rage while you consider appropriate response. You have live example STUDC to practice .. :P

Demonstrate your LOVE 

One serious draw back with many that they can’t show love. If you have crush then tell… Tell your mom n dad how much you love them.

Stay fit & Healthy.. Relax your Body. 

LOL.. I wrote more for myself I guess..Second line is for you..Do not strain too much..Theek hai MBA hai.. but you also know… Take sound sleep…

Follow your code of HONOR 

Stick to this If you don’t say lie..never do. If you don’t smoke.. never do. If you commit something.. always do. HONOR YOURSELF

Share the credit/ Make every1 feel important 

That’s how you get love and respect. Even a small piece of work is appreciable. Your small yes can do wonders to your juniors. Never say “I did”, its “We Did”..

Develop Winning Habits 

It feels good to win. Don’t give up easily. If entering a competition then go to win and nothing less. Nobody remembers who came second.

Ask yourself lot of questions 

Best way to Discover things around you. There is no age of learning..and its never too late to learn stuff which you think you should have long back.

Get tough..Accept Hard Work 

You are tough..seriously Ansh. Point here is that you should not submit yourself to easy looking task. Take one of those difficult project during intern.

Imagine! Venture outside the box 

In other words “be Creative” Fresh ideas are always welcome everywhere.. And don’t hesitate in coming up with weird ideas.

Build Group/Team/Network/Friends 

Its all about networking. How can Rajat /gupta do that scam..? :D But on a serious note, talk with everyone and carry them along. Be like Partha here :)

Submit to higher power/ Become Grateful 

…………………………………………. Learn your religion :)

Communicate with ease/ Speak Out 

MOC+WBC .. Interviews can be cracked with a smile if you know how to communicate easily. Shouting is bad. Look into eyes when talking to someone.

COUNT the time 

Person who does not keep track of time is hard to succeed. I have seen Niketa doing wonderfully well in this. Also “enjoy quiet time”..this place offers you lot to enjoy that :)

Appreciate your Appeal 

That’s self confidence type. Wear in which you feel comfortable (you already are awesome looking :P ) Believe in your personality!!

Close the doors on the past| Avoid thinking that :|

Some doors are better closed off as they no longer exist in your life. And after closing avoid thinking about it. PS: Am wrong person to tell this. Hope you do it well.

Do what you love doing 

If you love writing backwards then do so.. Life is too short to live for what others expect you to do. I like you despite so many pangey.. but these moments will not come again

Run the short road..March the long road  

 As in finish small pending issues first. They, if left unattended, starts giving tension. Walk the long road where experience is going to help you. Learn from each step here.

Maintain +ive attitude | Avoid –ive people 

You need not be friends with all. The success comes with positive mind & you will often feel down with people with negative outlook. Just try this once.

Offer Freely | Give generously 

You do this J Here I mean is help.. offer it freely. And when you are helping someone don’t hesitate in giving your 100%

Act as you feel | Listen to your Instincts 

Some of the best decisions are taken at instinct. As the more you think more you find pros and cons. Though that’s good but if you feel like hugging a total stranger, Just Do It .. :P

Practice Peace, Forget Everybody, Practice Forgiveness 

The best thing you can do to someone is forgiveness. The worst – neglect. Its not worth keeping grudges..talk them out.. Talking helps everything.

 

"Be A Mentor"

  

Mid Life Crisis

You would have read this I guess somewhere or the other. It keeps getting re posted on face book now and then! If haven't read till now then just read through. Dunno who wrote it at first place but whosoever did, did it beautifully - 

"24-25 is not a nice age for a man.... your ex-gfs are getting married , Your career has just started, Elders treat you as unproven theorems, College guys feel that you are too old to have in there group... You seem to enjoy both cartoon and news. You can no longer eat whatever you wish without putting on weight. You are not invited for weekend cricket matches . Every Aunty you meet asks “Shaadi kab kar rahe ho beta!!” while uncle asks “Career ka kya socha hai beta…”. When the reality is that you are just riding the wave and going with the flow. You have all the confidence in the world but little achievements to show, You already have the first hand experience of life , You know that whatever you have been taught about the world in school has been sheer waste of time. You can be denied a job even after passing the test and you could be given a job if you know someone placed high enough… Politics till now was a dirty word but now you feel it everywhere. You know now love is not that blind and that friendship has its terms and conditions. .You know there is nothing for granted and free lunches are not free. Your overconfidence is now making way for a humble conscience. . You now know it is not exactly what we thought it would be"

The line which struck me the most was the one I put in bold.. everything else seems derived from it! :)

Jack n Jill redefined

Well this is the redefined version of Jack and Jill poem by Ballu. Made during our trip to Nongstoin.

Vishal and Shubhi went up the hill
          to get a picture clicked!
Shubhi fell down and got stuck in rocks
          and Vishal came laughing after!

There was nothing better in that trip..! Trust me..! :P

Hard Fact 3

"I am best at losing the ones i loved the most!"

Click here for Hard Fact 1 & 2

Lies & Truths

Its Lies & Truths and not Truth & Lies .. because that's how its working these days.

 

Everyone is so busy in racing their lives that stopping and thinking about their loved ones has become a hurdle. So if someone sees his close one in trouble and asks "Is everything all right?" the first reply he gets is "Yups", although clearly its splashed across the face that things are not at all right. Small tensions to bigger problems.. all goes with saying "yups everything is right". Either you make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it or simply don't say it.

And this is not because the person doesn't want you to tell, its because they don't want you to feel the anxiety, the trouble of knowing the problem. Somewhere its there in mind that why should I bother them with my problem. All noble and sweet but aren't we doing something wrong. Are we thinking the person who is asking to be less competent? Aren't we making him fell uncomfortable by that "yups everything is right"?

You think that you knows your best friend the best. But still you will not tell many times that you don't like his/her certain behavior, some acts. Why? Is it because you are afraid that the other person will think wrong about you? Test it..! In true relations, these are taken in a constructive manner. You can not tell that you don't like something about your best friend to an outsider and when that friend of yours get to know you had said , you refuse. Have the courage to open up to your best friend at-least. Have the dignity of not lying to him at-least.

Many relations, friendships have gone to end just because of this "lie". And the sophisticated society has given it a better word - "trust". This relationship has no longer trust in it ..

Is it that difficult to speak truth? Agreed there are situations you can not tell things. But then instead of saying that things are right, you can say that you can't tell now but will tell later. And trust me, there always will be time when you can tell things you promised back. The greatest friend of truth is time, her greatest enemy is prejudice, and her constant companion humility. Humility is nothing but truth, and pride is nothing but lying.

Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness, give your friends truth! There is no better way to have that relation going ahead.

I've ...

I’ve seen castles made out of sand

Met people who believe destiny is engraved on the palm of their hands

I’ve seen people change their faith

Experienced love and change into hate

I’ve seen people grow younger with age

And a bird who wouldn’t fly out of an open cage

I’ve seen love sold out for money

People who are devastated inside but outside they’re funny

I’ve seen unicorn fall in love with a toad

People who owned half the city have now hit the road

I’ve learnt to expect the unexpected

Perfection doesn’t exist, we all are born defected

Everyone cries, some just hide their tears

They say coal turns into diamond over a  thousand years

For some you are just another ‘nobody’ in a million

But someone may believe you are one in a billion!

For all you guys here at shillong - bhim, lala, balu, velle, fartha, baba, duckling, bangu, sana, amma, chink, princess, shubhi, ditcher, miss mentor, divi, mantri, nitish, raghu, joy, guptaji, dada, nakli, bhav, mishra, nagar, khandu.....

Impulse

“There are things you do sometimes, actions that you take by obeying sudden impulses, without stopping for even a fraction of a second to think, and then you spend the rest of your life either lamenting it or thanking yourself for it. They are rare, unique, and perfect moments.”

The real life is confusing and things are more than what is simply white and black. Ex-girlfriends are purely irresistible. They keep jumping down your head, reminding you of each of your gesture and the behaviour and all these complicated stuff which you really never cared as a man when you were free. Life has grown ahead by tying itself to a backdated hook. You do stuff still having the notion of how you were doing the same few years back. Why? Impulse!

Well what’s going on? Life is full of ups and downs. This is no excuse that your idea got rejected at one place and you blurt your anger out at some other. Pure human impulsive tendency, but wrong! In the process of calming down, you will impulsively think that “Ok, let me confront them one last time!” But seriously, it’s not them you have to confront. It’s You yourself.

Being impulsive is underrated. I think the best decisions are often the ones we take in the spur of that moment. But then, sometimes the biggest mistakes of our lives are made on impulse and you will end up saying it’s all over. And of love and ambition, nothing remains! To me, I didn’t know whether it was going to be good or bad - one of the most impulsive decision - resigning from my first job just because of sheer anger. You storm in general manager’s cabin with your papers turned in and without listening to any counter argument from that old “i-am-the-boss” you continuously chant swearing words. You see the picture of that one daisy flower (of course there is a background story of this flower) and all your anger flies. Impulse again. But good or bad? Well good it turned out it seems!

Sometimes we don’t want the same things anymore. Yesterday’s broken dreams still haunt us. Mirrors lie and ask difficult questions – “Is that smile really genuine?” You can fool the world but not yourself. Well, you might sometimes but is that really what you want? For an instant that sad expression will peep out and that’s the moment of impulsive truth.

Broken hearts can be mended. All it takes is few nights of drunken revelry and many nights of tear drenched pillows. The real solution to a broken heart is of course another girl. In a company of friends, that JD bottle but at the night those reading of the old messages on your cell phone screen with a smile passing on each passing message. And then you think, why we got apart in such an impulsive moment. Had we withhold the fight, had we remained quite for that moment and had we agreed to fight at some other time, we would still have been together. 

There was this line often said - ”Never make a decision when angry and never promise something when happy” I guess now it is clear why this is so true in real life! 

Happy Singles Day

Its 11:11 a.m. of 11-11-11

And therefore I wish all you singles out there.. a very Happy Singles Day! :D :P

This moment will not come for the next 100 years.. so go out.. njoy..have party.. but remember.. only with other single friends :P

PS: Is there officially any day known as "Singles Day"?
PPS: If there is any, screw that. Today is the day you need to celebrate out \m/

Relations are not Maths

What is maths? They say its the basics of all fundamentals which we humans learnt...how to count and keep everything in order. And then what are relation... again i guess right from adam and eve humans learnt its meaning. The two terms got mixed and we got "Mathematical Relations".

Right form  childhood we have heard this term "mathematical relation". Many of my friends used to hate maths when i used to score 100 in primary classes. They used to say maths is tough.. I used to say maths is the easiest. Time passed, Math really grew tough and so do the relations.. I used to always try and explain maths.. and relations.. to people. Always felt too sure, too confident about these two things in my life that i can never get wrong here. I know them correctly. But nopes. Things were never that simple.

What went wrong?

Law of associativity - a + ( b + c ) = ( a + b ) + c

Simple enough! But mathematically! It does not hold at all when it comes to relations. With the passage of time, in a group of three people, 2 will come closer..share secrets..talk..and yes third is still there. To an outsider, it is all same.. but internally it is not. The whole summation of the group has changed by putting those brackets around two. And if the same bracket is with other combination of 2 in the group.. again it changes.

End Result - a + ( b + c )  ≠ ( a + b ) + c and infact the best thing for this relation is leaving it as a + b + c only!

Law of distributivity - a * ( b + c ) = a*b + a*c

This is much more easier to understand. Again mathematically it is very simple. But take it from relation point of view. In a group of two if third person enters.. do you think that this third person distributes/shares his time, emotions, problems, secrets and all this equally?? No right! in some cases, 'b' is more close to 'a' and in other 'c' .. that is mathematically speaking.. value of 'a' differs as soon as the bracket is open! It is not the same person any more. Rather you can say it becomes a1 and a2 making the value of the relation different than intended.

Therefore, it is always better for 'b' and 'c' to tackle 'a' from inside the bracket i.e. not opening themselves individually to this outsider. 

And adding on to these.. I just felt that it is not just maths but other subjects which defines relations. Take thermodynamics. Zeroth law of thermodynamics state that if a is equal to b and b is equal to c then a is bound to be equal to c. Writing mathematically - If a = b & b = c then a = c

Give it a thought..hardly you see this happening! 'a' is a very good friend of 'b' and 'b' is a very good friend of 'c. But then it is not a confirmation that 'a' should be a good friend of 'c'. In fact 'a' and 'c' could be arch rivals or non existent for each other. And from the point of expectation of 'b' also it is not justified at all to think that 'a' and 'c' should be as good together as they are with him.

Only thing which i think is holding true is Newton's first law, a body in motion will remain in motion and a body at rest will remain at rest unless it is acted upon by external force.

A relation will remain in tact unless there is an outside force which tries to disrupt it. Any external news, gossip, person, truth, lie, anything will alter this state of trust, equilibrium and harmony - however minutely or largely it do.

MindBlog

Its long since i made last entry here. But there are so many entries which keeps registering in the mind every now or then. Any topic.. discussion.. situation.. everything gets framed and waited to be showcased. have so many half written  entries now..!
Its just the laziness that they are not getting posted..

Get over.. !