Friday, January 27, 2012

Lies & Truths

Its Lies & Truths and not Truth & Lies .. because that's how its working these days.
 
Everyone is so busy in racing their lives that stopping and thinking about their loved ones has become a hurdle. So if someone sees his close one in trouble and asks "Is everything all right?" the first reply he gets is "Yups", although clearly its splashed across the face that things are not at all right. Small tensions to bigger problems.. all goes with saying "yups everything is right". Either you make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it or simply don't say it.

And this is not because the person doesn't want you to tell, its because they don't want you to feel the anxiety, the trouble of knowing the problem. Somewhere its there in mind that why should I bother them with my problem. All noble and sweet but aren't we doing something wrong. Are we thinking the person who is asking to be less competent? Aren't we making him fell uncomfortable by that "yups everything is right"?

You think that you knows your best friend the best. But still you will not tell many times that you don't like his/her certain behavior, some acts. Why? Is it because you are afraid that the other person will think wrong about you? Test it..! In true relations, these are taken in a constructive manner. You can not tell that you don't like something about your best friend to an outsider and when that friend of yours get to know you had said , you refuse. Have the courage to open up to your best friend at-least. Have the dignity of not lying to him at-least.

Many relations, friendships have gone to end just because of this "lie". And the sophisticated society has given it a better word - "trust". This relationship has no longer trust in it ..

Is it that difficult to speak truth? Agreed there are situations you can not tell things. But then instead of saying that things are right, you can say that you can't tell now but will tell later. And trust me, there always will be time when you can tell things you promised back. The greatest friend of truth is time, her greatest enemy is prejudice, and her constant companion humility. Humility is nothing but truth, and pride is nothing but lying.

Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness, give your friends truth! There is no better way to have that relation going ahead.